Small messages, big impact: Nurturing adaptive perfectionists

Abstract

完美主義是資優教育領域中一個不能小覷的性格特質。許多資優生在某程度上都是完美主義者。然而，完美主義並非資優或高成就學生所獨有的，即使是沒有背負資優標纖的家長、教師和學生都可以擁有這種特質。過去幾十年的研究顯示，倘若子女出現完美主義傾向，則其父母在當中擔當了關鍵的角色。因此，家長必須了解完美主義的本質，以及適應不良或非健康型完美主義如何在資優生的日常生活中萌發。你是否正在培養一個完美的孩子呢？更重要的是，你是否正在培育一個適應力強（健康）的完美孩子呢？本文章旨在給家長一些啟示，使他們能引導資優生遠離完美主義的陰暗面。 Perfectionism is a personality trait that cannot be neglected in the realm of gifted education. Many gifted learners are perfectionistic in one way or another. It is, however, not a characteristic exclusive to gifted and high-achieving learners, but one that could be found in parents, teachers and students who do not bear the gifted label. The past few decades of research have told us that parents play a crucial role in the formation of perfectionism in their children. It is therefore necessary for parents to understand the nature of perfectionism and how the maladaptive or unhealthy form of perfectionism sprouts and grows in gifted learners in their everyday life. Are you nurturing a perfect child? And more importantly, are you bringing up an adaptive (healthy) perfect child? This article attempts to offer some insights into how parents can guide gifted learners away from the dark side of perfectionism.